Before doing any kind of flirting, dating, or anything to do with relationships, you have to ask yourself a few things. What do you want? Do you want a long-term relationship or a one night stand? What type of person do you want to date? What do you need to do to make it happen? What is best for you?
If you just want a one night stand, its all about looks and first impressions. If you're a man, make it look like you have status, that you are well-groomed, and that you take good care of yourself. Personality wise, act relaxed and calm as if you belong there. It shows that you are confident and it helps the women be comfortable with you.Also, show a sense of humor as its one of the most important things to a woman. If you can make her laugh, you're in. If you're a woman, go out and show off your best features. Be flirty and show the man you're into that you want him. Make it known what you want because most men will go after you for the night if you act like this.
If you want a long-term relationship, it is going to be harder. You've got to stand out. For men, it isn't that different than what the last paragraph said. Take care of yourself and look your best. Show your best self with your personality and always try to make the girl smile. For women, it is different. You have to act more composed with your clothing choices. Make yourself look date-worthy and make yourself look like a woman that men want to get to know. With your personality, act more relaxed around men. Still flirt but make it subtle to make the man want to try for you.
With the person you want to date, that is all a matter of opinion. I can't tell you what your type is. That is something only you know but make sure you know what it is. If you're not sure what your type is, experiment and test it out. See what type makes you the happiest and go with that. I'm not saying date out of your comfort zone as those might be your best relationships or your new type. What you need to know is what isn't your type. If you date someone that is not your type at all, it is common knowledge that you will be miserable.
What you need to do to make it happen has been explained somewhat already. I threw some looks and personality traits to present. Another thing to remember is you use the same methods, you will get the same results. Use what has worked and disregard what hasn't. Certain things that work for others won't work for you and vice versa. Use what has worked. If you use all these things, you will find out what is best for you and you will simply have a better life.
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Sunday, April 22, 2012
Friday, April 13, 2012
You Only Live Once
YOLO has become a phrase amongst the party crowd but they have a point. You only live once so make the most of it. Don't let fear hold you back. Don't let the chance of rejection hinder you from trying to get someone. The thought process of you only live once is perfect for helping you get through flirting and eventually asking someone out. This motto was started by partiers but can easily be applied to people who want to date and have a meaningful relationship.
It can help you before, during, and after a relationship. Before a relationship, it helps you have no fear since you want the best life you can have. If they reject you, you will think it doesn't matter and can try for someone else. During a relationship, you will do the best you can for a person because you want to make the most of your life and if they aren't happy, it isn't a good life. After the relationship, you can think you only live once and that way you won't dwell on your ex.
You only live once is a way to not be afraid. There is much worse out in the world. Why be afraid of other people and what they think of you? If they reject you, you can simply not care about it. There isn't any point to worry about someone who doesn't want you. When you're with someone, you will care about them and want to make a good relationship happen. It is your life and you only live once so why waste it with a bad relationship? After a breakup, you can walk away and stay strong. It is your life and you only live once so make the most of it.
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It can help you before, during, and after a relationship. Before a relationship, it helps you have no fear since you want the best life you can have. If they reject you, you will think it doesn't matter and can try for someone else. During a relationship, you will do the best you can for a person because you want to make the most of your life and if they aren't happy, it isn't a good life. After the relationship, you can think you only live once and that way you won't dwell on your ex.
You only live once is a way to not be afraid. There is much worse out in the world. Why be afraid of other people and what they think of you? If they reject you, you can simply not care about it. There isn't any point to worry about someone who doesn't want you. When you're with someone, you will care about them and want to make a good relationship happen. It is your life and you only live once so why waste it with a bad relationship? After a breakup, you can walk away and stay strong. It is your life and you only live once so make the most of it.
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Friday, April 6, 2012
Don't try too hard
I've seen it happen time and time again. Someone wants somebody, so they do whatever they can to make that other person like them. More times than not, this scares the other person off. If you're trying so hard to get them now, they are scared of what will happen if you two actually start dating. They will think you seem nice but they will also assume you are the clingy type. While some people enjoy it, most do not especially at the beginning of a relationship. If you are the kind of person who will do anything to win someone over, read this blog now.
If you are trying too hard for one person, you will not get them or anyone else. People don't want someone who tries too hard for them unless they just want attention. Be honest with yourself, do you want a relationship like that? Do you want a relationship where you do everything for them and they do nothing for you? That is probably a no unless you're a masochist. It's beneficial to them and you if you just act normal with things.
Be casual when it comes to flirting. Do things that you normally do. Show that you're someone who deserves them. Don't try so hard or it will lower their opinion of you. You want them to think high of you so they will want you too. You don't do this at all when they can see how hard you are trying for them. It makes you below them and you're putting them on a pedestal before you're even dating them. Even if they say yes, you won't get anything good out of it besides someone who thinks they settled.
This doesn't apply only to getting someone. It applies to keeping them as well. Just because you have someone doesn't mean it is ok to throw yourself on them. Don't be clingy and too affectionate. Let the relationship develop before you two show a lot of affection towards each other. Also keep it private because most people don't want to be over the top in public. Don't make it look like you're showing them off or they are arm candy. They are your partner, you two are equal, and it should stay like that.
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If you are trying too hard for one person, you will not get them or anyone else. People don't want someone who tries too hard for them unless they just want attention. Be honest with yourself, do you want a relationship like that? Do you want a relationship where you do everything for them and they do nothing for you? That is probably a no unless you're a masochist. It's beneficial to them and you if you just act normal with things.
Be casual when it comes to flirting. Do things that you normally do. Show that you're someone who deserves them. Don't try so hard or it will lower their opinion of you. You want them to think high of you so they will want you too. You don't do this at all when they can see how hard you are trying for them. It makes you below them and you're putting them on a pedestal before you're even dating them. Even if they say yes, you won't get anything good out of it besides someone who thinks they settled.
This doesn't apply only to getting someone. It applies to keeping them as well. Just because you have someone doesn't mean it is ok to throw yourself on them. Don't be clingy and too affectionate. Let the relationship develop before you two show a lot of affection towards each other. Also keep it private because most people don't want to be over the top in public. Don't make it look like you're showing them off or they are arm candy. They are your partner, you two are equal, and it should stay like that.
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Thursday, April 5, 2012
How to get someone
Before this post, I've written some general statements without any real detail. Most of my posts have also been how to keep someone. They've also never been gender-specific. These three things are about to change with this post. I will go into details with what I've learned over the years. This post isn't how to keep someone, it is about how to get someone because this can be the hardest part for some people. I will also split the tips between both genders. Ladies go first so here are some tips from a man's perspective.
1. Don't act entitled to things
Before anybody gets mad, this isn't me saying you don't deserve things because you do. This is me saying you don't deserve things simply because you are a woman. Guys want to do stuff for you because we want to make you happy. All were asking for is a simple thank you. You didn't earn it because you are a woman. You earned it because we like the person you are and want to be with you. However, we also want to be appreciated for the things we do for you. If I'm not shown appreciation, I feel like the girl doesn't care about me. All I'm saying is appreciate the things we do and we will like you a lot more which will make us want to ask you out and be in a relationship with you.
2. Don't act better than us
When I'm going for someone or I'm dating someone, I tend to believe that person is better than me. To the women reading this, let us guys believe that about you because we don't want you to believe it. I don't want the girl to think she's better than me because that is the quickest way to make me think the complete opposite. I want someone who is happy to have me and I want to be happy to have her. The way that works is if both are equal to each other or both people think the other one is better. If I feel like she thinks she is above me, I won't want to be with her and waste my time being mistreated.
3. Do act interested
If you want to get a guy's attention, do something simple like a smile or a laugh at something that isn't that funny. If we think you're cute and it looks like you're interested, we will most likely go after you. However, if you don't act interested and even if we are interested, we might not try on the simple fact we figure you will reject us. We need a little confidence to ask a girl out and showing that you might like us is all it takes sometimes for us to go after you.
4. Depending on the guy, make the first move
This doesn't work for every guy so be careful with this. I personally like when the girl makes the first move because it is an easy way to tell she is really into me if she is willing to do that. I want someone who is willing to show how much she likes me. However, not all men are like me and this is where observation is useful. If you can tell a guy is nervous about things, he will probably like the girl who can make the first move. If he is really confident, he will probably make the first move. It is the guy in the middle that you have to be careful about. Just watch how he acts and you can probably tell if he would want you to make the first move or he wants to do it the traditional way and make the first move.
Those four things are for the women who read this. This next list will be for the men and it is what I've learned from my experience.
1. Don't take too much time
I understand why guys wait. It because you want to make sure she says yes. However, if you wait too long, some other guy will get her. Don't call her a bitch either because it is your fault for waiting and not letting her know you like her. You have to flirt with her and let her know someway that you're interested in her. Once you feel like she will say yes and I mean the moment that you feel it, ask her out on a casual date because if you wait too long, you will be stuck in friend zone.
2. Smile
This doesn't seem that hard but most people forget it. A smile is one simple thing that can make you look like you have it together. It makes you look like you are in a positive place and you are a genuinely fun person to be around. It makes you look like the person people an have a good time with. It makes you look like a happy and fun guy and that is always a good first impression. It makes you look like the kind of guy people want to be around and all it takes is a simple smile. Just make sure it doesn't look fake.
3. Know what kind of girls will go after you
I'm not saying this in a defeatist attitude but people make first impressions within five seconds. In those five seconds a girl will decide if she likes how you look. Depending on your physical features and the clothes you wear, some girls will simply not want you. That's ok though because there are other girls out there. I'm not saying girls in different leagues. I am saying girls with different personalities. There are some types of girls who will never go after me and that's ok because I've learned what kind of girls do. You need to find out what kind of girl that is for you. Go for someone with a similar personality or a similar style because that will help you find a better match. Just don't go for someone who is exactly like you because that will get boring quick.
4. Take care of yourself
I hate saying this as it should be self-explanatory but you need to take care of yourself. You can be the nicest, funniest, most intelligent guy on the planet but if you don't take care of yourself, no girl will want to be with you. If you have bad breath, no girl will want to kiss you. If you look like a bum, no girl will want to be seen with you. Remember, to do anything better you have to start with making yourself better. More girls will notice you if you look your best. However, this isn't only about looks. I'm talking about your personality as well. Unless you look like a movie star, you need to have the best personality you can have. You need to show your best self. Work continually to make yourself better when it comes to both looks and personality.
Those are my tips on getting people. I know I sounded a little harsher with woman. I was because it is usually us guys who have to ask, so I was saying things to not make you lose a guy's interest since you already have it a little easier when it comes to finding someone. I'm not saying it with all things but with this field yes since some girls can simply use their looks because us men are superficial creatures who work better with visual stimulus.
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1. Don't act entitled to things
Before anybody gets mad, this isn't me saying you don't deserve things because you do. This is me saying you don't deserve things simply because you are a woman. Guys want to do stuff for you because we want to make you happy. All were asking for is a simple thank you. You didn't earn it because you are a woman. You earned it because we like the person you are and want to be with you. However, we also want to be appreciated for the things we do for you. If I'm not shown appreciation, I feel like the girl doesn't care about me. All I'm saying is appreciate the things we do and we will like you a lot more which will make us want to ask you out and be in a relationship with you.
2. Don't act better than us
When I'm going for someone or I'm dating someone, I tend to believe that person is better than me. To the women reading this, let us guys believe that about you because we don't want you to believe it. I don't want the girl to think she's better than me because that is the quickest way to make me think the complete opposite. I want someone who is happy to have me and I want to be happy to have her. The way that works is if both are equal to each other or both people think the other one is better. If I feel like she thinks she is above me, I won't want to be with her and waste my time being mistreated.
3. Do act interested
If you want to get a guy's attention, do something simple like a smile or a laugh at something that isn't that funny. If we think you're cute and it looks like you're interested, we will most likely go after you. However, if you don't act interested and even if we are interested, we might not try on the simple fact we figure you will reject us. We need a little confidence to ask a girl out and showing that you might like us is all it takes sometimes for us to go after you.
4. Depending on the guy, make the first move
This doesn't work for every guy so be careful with this. I personally like when the girl makes the first move because it is an easy way to tell she is really into me if she is willing to do that. I want someone who is willing to show how much she likes me. However, not all men are like me and this is where observation is useful. If you can tell a guy is nervous about things, he will probably like the girl who can make the first move. If he is really confident, he will probably make the first move. It is the guy in the middle that you have to be careful about. Just watch how he acts and you can probably tell if he would want you to make the first move or he wants to do it the traditional way and make the first move.
Those four things are for the women who read this. This next list will be for the men and it is what I've learned from my experience.
1. Don't take too much time
I understand why guys wait. It because you want to make sure she says yes. However, if you wait too long, some other guy will get her. Don't call her a bitch either because it is your fault for waiting and not letting her know you like her. You have to flirt with her and let her know someway that you're interested in her. Once you feel like she will say yes and I mean the moment that you feel it, ask her out on a casual date because if you wait too long, you will be stuck in friend zone.
2. Smile
This doesn't seem that hard but most people forget it. A smile is one simple thing that can make you look like you have it together. It makes you look like you are in a positive place and you are a genuinely fun person to be around. It makes you look like the person people an have a good time with. It makes you look like a happy and fun guy and that is always a good first impression. It makes you look like the kind of guy people want to be around and all it takes is a simple smile. Just make sure it doesn't look fake.
3. Know what kind of girls will go after you
I'm not saying this in a defeatist attitude but people make first impressions within five seconds. In those five seconds a girl will decide if she likes how you look. Depending on your physical features and the clothes you wear, some girls will simply not want you. That's ok though because there are other girls out there. I'm not saying girls in different leagues. I am saying girls with different personalities. There are some types of girls who will never go after me and that's ok because I've learned what kind of girls do. You need to find out what kind of girl that is for you. Go for someone with a similar personality or a similar style because that will help you find a better match. Just don't go for someone who is exactly like you because that will get boring quick.
4. Take care of yourself
I hate saying this as it should be self-explanatory but you need to take care of yourself. You can be the nicest, funniest, most intelligent guy on the planet but if you don't take care of yourself, no girl will want to be with you. If you have bad breath, no girl will want to kiss you. If you look like a bum, no girl will want to be seen with you. Remember, to do anything better you have to start with making yourself better. More girls will notice you if you look your best. However, this isn't only about looks. I'm talking about your personality as well. Unless you look like a movie star, you need to have the best personality you can have. You need to show your best self. Work continually to make yourself better when it comes to both looks and personality.
Those are my tips on getting people. I know I sounded a little harsher with woman. I was because it is usually us guys who have to ask, so I was saying things to not make you lose a guy's interest since you already have it a little easier when it comes to finding someone. I'm not saying it with all things but with this field yes since some girls can simply use their looks because us men are superficial creatures who work better with visual stimulus.
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Tuesday, April 3, 2012
Getting over an ex
I was looking at forums and this guy was talking about how it took him forever to get over his ex and that it still hurt to think about her. I've been like that before myself and I know plenty of other guys who are like that too. Because I know the feeling and had to teach myself how to get over it, I will give a few tips on how to get over your ex.
1. Time
Unfortunately, this is sometimes the only cure for getting over someone. Time will make it easier because you will forget how you two were as a couple. You'll forget the things that made you love them. You'll also see it isn't that bad being single. You might also realize that things were bad and they were right about the relationship needing to end. In time, you'll realize it wasn't meant to be. However, if you don't want to wait, here are some tips on how to speed up the process.
2. Hang out with friends
Being able to talk to your friends about it can relieve the pain but hanging out with them can also make you forget about the breakup. Have fun with your friends. Do things you couldn't do while in the relationship. I'm not saying do horrible things but do things you wanted to do and couldn't. Go out with your friends and talk to them about anything. The important thing here is to do things that will make you forget about them. Go to places you two didn't go. go places that don't remind you of them. Its easier to get through it with friends.
3. Make a list
Think of the things that you didn't like about your ex. Write it on a piece of paper. I'll be honest. This isn't my idea. I stole it from How I Met Your Mother but when I heard it, I thought that's a great idea and I did it since then. Thats why I'm including it here. If you ever find yourself missing your ex, look at this paper to remember why it is a good thing you two aren't together. You'll see that the thing you miss about them is nothing compared to the things you will never miss. It will help you stay strong and get over them.
4. Talk to other people
The easiest way to get over someone is by finding someone else. I'm not saying jump into another relationship right away. Start by just talking or casual flirting. It is easy to forget someone when you're thinking of someone else. If you have feelings for someone new, those feelings for your ex will go away faster. This new person might be a lot better than your ex and you'll wonder why you were ever with your ex. I'm not saying right after the breakup, date someone new but it doesn't hurt to look.
Those were a few tips on how to get over your ex. If you like the advice and want some more personalized advice, comment and ask a question below.
1. Time
Unfortunately, this is sometimes the only cure for getting over someone. Time will make it easier because you will forget how you two were as a couple. You'll forget the things that made you love them. You'll also see it isn't that bad being single. You might also realize that things were bad and they were right about the relationship needing to end. In time, you'll realize it wasn't meant to be. However, if you don't want to wait, here are some tips on how to speed up the process.
2. Hang out with friends
Being able to talk to your friends about it can relieve the pain but hanging out with them can also make you forget about the breakup. Have fun with your friends. Do things you couldn't do while in the relationship. I'm not saying do horrible things but do things you wanted to do and couldn't. Go out with your friends and talk to them about anything. The important thing here is to do things that will make you forget about them. Go to places you two didn't go. go places that don't remind you of them. Its easier to get through it with friends.
3. Make a list
Think of the things that you didn't like about your ex. Write it on a piece of paper. I'll be honest. This isn't my idea. I stole it from How I Met Your Mother but when I heard it, I thought that's a great idea and I did it since then. Thats why I'm including it here. If you ever find yourself missing your ex, look at this paper to remember why it is a good thing you two aren't together. You'll see that the thing you miss about them is nothing compared to the things you will never miss. It will help you stay strong and get over them.
4. Talk to other people
The easiest way to get over someone is by finding someone else. I'm not saying jump into another relationship right away. Start by just talking or casual flirting. It is easy to forget someone when you're thinking of someone else. If you have feelings for someone new, those feelings for your ex will go away faster. This new person might be a lot better than your ex and you'll wonder why you were ever with your ex. I'm not saying right after the breakup, date someone new but it doesn't hurt to look.
Those were a few tips on how to get over your ex. If you like the advice and want some more personalized advice, comment and ask a question below.
detailed tips #1
In my last blog, I wrote some general tips on how to make a relationship work. In this blog and others to come, I will write detailed tips on how to make it work. Today's tip is to make a good impression on the people who are close to your partner like their friends and family. I say this because if their friends or family like you, you are in.
If they like you, they will say good things about you to your partner which will make them them like you even more. On the other hand, if they don't like you, they will say negative things about you to your partner which will make them have doubts about you and your relationship. Also, those friends and family of hers are people you will have to hang out with and I don't know about you but I like to hang out with people who like me and enjoy my company.
If they don't like you, these times will always be bad experiences that make your partner doubt the relationship even more. However, if those times are good times and they see you get along with the people that are close to them, they see someone they want to be with and they see a relationship that can last. When you get along with the people that are close to them, you become closer to them. If you don't get along with them, they will do more things that exclude you because they are afraid of another bad experience with you and the other people in their lives.
This will cause the relationship to become distant. When a relationship become distant, it is close to the end. If you are someone their friends and family likes, your partner will want to include you in more things which strengthens your relationship and if your relationship gets better it will last longer. Long story short, if you want to make the relationship last, get along with their friends and family.
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If they like you, they will say good things about you to your partner which will make them them like you even more. On the other hand, if they don't like you, they will say negative things about you to your partner which will make them have doubts about you and your relationship. Also, those friends and family of hers are people you will have to hang out with and I don't know about you but I like to hang out with people who like me and enjoy my company.
If they don't like you, these times will always be bad experiences that make your partner doubt the relationship even more. However, if those times are good times and they see you get along with the people that are close to them, they see someone they want to be with and they see a relationship that can last. When you get along with the people that are close to them, you become closer to them. If you don't get along with them, they will do more things that exclude you because they are afraid of another bad experience with you and the other people in their lives.
This will cause the relationship to become distant. When a relationship become distant, it is close to the end. If you are someone their friends and family likes, your partner will want to include you in more things which strengthens your relationship and if your relationship gets better it will last longer. Long story short, if you want to make the relationship last, get along with their friends and family.
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Monday, April 2, 2012
How to make a relationship work
I'm writing this because I see simple mistakes happen all the time in relationships. I'm not perfect in relationships myself and for the longest time I made many mistakes. However, over time through my experiences and through observation, I see why a relationship works and why they don't. For the longest time, getting the girl was easy and keeping her was hard for me. I now see it happen with friends of mine and I feel bad when they lose the girl because of a stupid mistake that could've been avoided. So for those friends and for anyone reading this blog, here is a list of a few tips to make the relationship last.
1. Be honest with each other
Honesty is the best policy is a correct saying in this case. If you are going to do something you're worried your partner will disapprove ask them or at least, let them know. Don't hide it from them or lie about it because when they find out and they will eventually find out, they will feel angry, hurt, and betrayed. One lie depending on how big it is could ruin the relationship because your partner could lose all the trust they have in you. I understand why people hide things from each other. They think if the partner doesn't know I'm doing this then it won't hurt us and the relationship will last longer. This is backwards thinking as when they do find out, you might lose them or you could've told them in the beginning and it would help build trust. For a relationship to work, there has to be trust and for there to be trust, you have to be honest.
2. Remember to put them above yourself
If you are with someone, you have to be willing to make sacrifices to make it work. There will be certain places you won't be able to go and things you won't be able to do. You have to decide they are worth it and if they truly are, it shouldn't be hard to give those things up. Remember that you chose your partner and chose to be in this relationship. If you love them, let them know not only with words but with actions and one of these actions is showing you are willing to give up things for them.You have to let them know they are more important than your old life. If they are, this one shouldn't be hard to do.
3. Treat them how they want to be treated
Forget the golden rule. Use the platinum rule in a relationship. Instead of treating them how you want to be treated, treat them how they want to be treated. They won't have all the same likes you have so your idea of fun isn't their idea of fun. You will have to do things you don't enjoy but you can persevere because remember you are with them and they are worth it. In return, they will or at least they should do the same for you and anything you like to do is usually better with them by your side. Also, certain things you're ok with aren't things they will be ok with so don't do those things. They will want to be treated a different way than you like to be treated. The general rule is if you don't know they like to be treated yet, treat them as best as you can.
4. Communication
This is a pretty simple thing to do but a lot of couples avoid it. If certain things are bothering you, speak up and let your partner know whats wrong. Don't pretend that everything is ok because then you will bottle it up and resent your partner for something they don't know bothers you. If something bothers you, let them know in a calm and civil way before you bottle it up and emotions take control. Most of the time people do something wrong, it is because they don't know what they're doing is wrong so let them know and most likely, they will stop doing that thing and it will be fixed. Also, talk about what you enjoy so they know what to do to make you happy. The main point here is to just talk to your partner and figure out ways to make it work.
Those are four of my tips for a good relationship. There is a lot of other little things but I was putting major things in this list. If you follow these simple rules, you will have longer lasting relationships. If you liked this post and want some personal advice, comment and ask a question about anything below.
1. Be honest with each other
Honesty is the best policy is a correct saying in this case. If you are going to do something you're worried your partner will disapprove ask them or at least, let them know. Don't hide it from them or lie about it because when they find out and they will eventually find out, they will feel angry, hurt, and betrayed. One lie depending on how big it is could ruin the relationship because your partner could lose all the trust they have in you. I understand why people hide things from each other. They think if the partner doesn't know I'm doing this then it won't hurt us and the relationship will last longer. This is backwards thinking as when they do find out, you might lose them or you could've told them in the beginning and it would help build trust. For a relationship to work, there has to be trust and for there to be trust, you have to be honest.
2. Remember to put them above yourself
If you are with someone, you have to be willing to make sacrifices to make it work. There will be certain places you won't be able to go and things you won't be able to do. You have to decide they are worth it and if they truly are, it shouldn't be hard to give those things up. Remember that you chose your partner and chose to be in this relationship. If you love them, let them know not only with words but with actions and one of these actions is showing you are willing to give up things for them.You have to let them know they are more important than your old life. If they are, this one shouldn't be hard to do.
3. Treat them how they want to be treated
Forget the golden rule. Use the platinum rule in a relationship. Instead of treating them how you want to be treated, treat them how they want to be treated. They won't have all the same likes you have so your idea of fun isn't their idea of fun. You will have to do things you don't enjoy but you can persevere because remember you are with them and they are worth it. In return, they will or at least they should do the same for you and anything you like to do is usually better with them by your side. Also, certain things you're ok with aren't things they will be ok with so don't do those things. They will want to be treated a different way than you like to be treated. The general rule is if you don't know they like to be treated yet, treat them as best as you can.
4. Communication
This is a pretty simple thing to do but a lot of couples avoid it. If certain things are bothering you, speak up and let your partner know whats wrong. Don't pretend that everything is ok because then you will bottle it up and resent your partner for something they don't know bothers you. If something bothers you, let them know in a calm and civil way before you bottle it up and emotions take control. Most of the time people do something wrong, it is because they don't know what they're doing is wrong so let them know and most likely, they will stop doing that thing and it will be fixed. Also, talk about what you enjoy so they know what to do to make you happy. The main point here is to just talk to your partner and figure out ways to make it work.
Those are four of my tips for a good relationship. There is a lot of other little things but I was putting major things in this list. If you follow these simple rules, you will have longer lasting relationships. If you liked this post and want some personal advice, comment and ask a question about anything below.
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