My answer to is he cheating on me?

This is a comment I got just a while ago:

 I don't really know how to start this, but I just want to get an honest opinion that won't be sugar-coated. I want to know if my boyfriend might be cheating on me. A while ago, I had checked his phone and there were some odd text messages from him to his second cousin. They said: "Can anyone see your phone?" "Ok good. Would you like to mess around on Sunday?" "How long have you been on it? Would you like to do it again?" It seems like he might be cheating on me with her. Unfortunately this is the only piece of evidence I have.
         Am I overreacting, or is this something I should worry about? I've already asked him about it, but his story doesn't make much sense. He did admit to asking her how long she had been on her menstrual cycle. I don't know why he'd need to know that. In addition, I asked his cousin and her story didn't match his. I don't want this to be true, but if it is, I don't want to stay with him. Please just tell me what you think. Thank you

To be honest, it sounds like he is and that he is trying to hide it. I would say talk to him and see what he says if it wasn't for the text "Would you like to do it again?" The cousin's story is probably the correct one and your boyfriend is probably covering it up. If they are similar but with some differences, the cousin is probably failing at covering up for him. It might not be the cousin he is cheating on you with or at least I hope its not.
        What I think happened is he cheated on you with a different girl. He is covering it up by having the contact be his second cousin's name instead. He asked his cousin to help cover for him but they both have different stories sine it is probably a lie. You're not overreacting and this is something you should worry about. He might be cheating. It definitely sounds like it is. His whole story seems off. I think you should ask until you can be sure he isn't lying or when he finally tells the truth. Unfortunately, it sounds like he is and if he is, you need to do whats best for you.

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First Anonymous Question

This is what I just got as a comment on my last post:


Ok, so here is the deal, tell me what you honestly think I should do. I am putting your advice giving skills to the test. So throughout all high school I was obsessivly in love with a friend of mine, I went over and spent time with her, and been a friend, but I would always do something stupid like push myself on her more or whatever. I went to the point of where I actually wrote a letter to her admitting how I felt about her and everything at the time.
               Well after a while I decided that it would be the best for both me and her, if I just started dating other people and everything. Well now we are in college, we became pretty good friends, and now that I am single again for a while, those feelings have started coming back and I am scared and not sure what to do. I want to be her friend and her not to think bad of me because of this, but yet I know that my feelings will never change and so I don't know what I should do.

     This is the first true advice I'm giving on this blog and I will do my best so here it goes. You asked me to be honest so I will tell you that it looks like you got friend-zoned (at least in high school). What you can do now is one of two things. 1. Admit to yourself that it might be better to just stay friends especially if she wasn't sending back any feelings back in high school. or 2. You try to see how she acts towards you now. She might have forgotten that you pushed yourself on her back in high school. If she did, never bring it up again even as a joke. You might lose any chance at her. If she acts like she likes you now, go for it but ask her to go on a casual date not some big ordeal and definitely don't tell her you've been obsessively in love with her. if she says yes to the casual date, act normal. Subtlety is the key in this situation. You can't go over the top with your emotions on a first date.
             If the first date is good, ask her on another one and see where it goes. If she doesn't act like she likes you or she says no, just remain friends with her and stop trying with this one girl. Try to move on and look for someone else. If you are hung up on this girl, you won't be able to find anyone else so if you know there isn't any chance with her, you might as well forget any romantic things with her. If you move on and find someone else, those feelings will change about her and you'll see that it wasn't worth getting worked over. Long story short, see if she likes you by the way she acts. If she seems like she does, ask her out on a casual date. If not or if she says no, try to find someone else simple as that.

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What is love?

My friend Kyle just posted this question and as tempted as I was to write "Baby, don't hurt me" I will write seriously about it. It is hard to describe love as it is different for everyone. It is one of those things where if you have experienced it, you understand it completely but if you've never experienced it, you will never understand. I will try to explain my best though. For me, love is when you let your heart make the decisions and you aren't upset by it.
        You actually enjoy it because it is one of the best experiences you will ever feel. Love is when you would give up everything for that one person because you can't give them up and nothing else compares to them. Love can make you feel the best you ever have and also the worst. It can be a cruel temptress but it can also be your best friend. It is the one thing religious and non-religious people can agree on. In the bible, it says it is the most important thing in the world but non-religious people can think that as well.
          Love is something that binds but its not a bad thing, you choose to let it happen. Some people are afraid of love but it isn't anything to fear once you feel it. Because once you feel it, you now know why it is out there and why people try so hard for it. You will try your hardest for love because that one person is the one thing that is always worth your best effort.
          That effort isn't attainable without love because love changes you for the better and even if you lose love, you still know it was good for you because of how you felt when you were in love.It isn't easy to understand because everyone is different and everyone's emotions are different but that is what I think love is. If someone likes this advice and wants a question answered, just comment below.