First Anonymous Question

This is what I just got as a comment on my last post:


Ok, so here is the deal, tell me what you honestly think I should do. I am putting your advice giving skills to the test. So throughout all high school I was obsessivly in love with a friend of mine, I went over and spent time with her, and been a friend, but I would always do something stupid like push myself on her more or whatever. I went to the point of where I actually wrote a letter to her admitting how I felt about her and everything at the time.
               Well after a while I decided that it would be the best for both me and her, if I just started dating other people and everything. Well now we are in college, we became pretty good friends, and now that I am single again for a while, those feelings have started coming back and I am scared and not sure what to do. I want to be her friend and her not to think bad of me because of this, but yet I know that my feelings will never change and so I don't know what I should do.

     This is the first true advice I'm giving on this blog and I will do my best so here it goes. You asked me to be honest so I will tell you that it looks like you got friend-zoned (at least in high school). What you can do now is one of two things. 1. Admit to yourself that it might be better to just stay friends especially if she wasn't sending back any feelings back in high school. or 2. You try to see how she acts towards you now. She might have forgotten that you pushed yourself on her back in high school. If she did, never bring it up again even as a joke. You might lose any chance at her. If she acts like she likes you now, go for it but ask her to go on a casual date not some big ordeal and definitely don't tell her you've been obsessively in love with her. if she says yes to the casual date, act normal. Subtlety is the key in this situation. You can't go over the top with your emotions on a first date.
             If the first date is good, ask her on another one and see where it goes. If she doesn't act like she likes you or she says no, just remain friends with her and stop trying with this one girl. Try to move on and look for someone else. If you are hung up on this girl, you won't be able to find anyone else so if you know there isn't any chance with her, you might as well forget any romantic things with her. If you move on and find someone else, those feelings will change about her and you'll see that it wasn't worth getting worked over. Long story short, see if she likes you by the way she acts. If she seems like she does, ask her out on a casual date. If not or if she says no, try to find someone else simple as that.

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